I already missed my first goal/commitment of posting content every week. đ One week came and went, but I have a good excuse! I logged 78 hours of billable work and Iâm exhausted at my core (and Iâm still working 12-14 hr days). But it got me thinking about how we, as a society spend out time.
Why is being busy so idealized?
Why is actually relaxing so hard?
We were talking about this at home and I said âhow come, even when Iâm relaxing I need to have something to do?â And we discussed how stagnancy isnât relaxing. So often we think about âfinally sitting downâ and watching tv as a form of relaxing, but even when we get a chance to do that - its not enough anymore. Weâre on our phones scrolling, or on our computers writing, etc. â multi-tasking at the same time.
We, as a society, donât know how to relax and maybe itâs because we equate busyness with our self-worth. Having nothing to do - thatâs insane, there is always something to do!
And this is why weâre all running ourselves into the ground. Exhausted, trying to achieve, to what end?
We need to redefine how we relax. We need to change our mindset - that relaxing is doing things you enjoy and not doing nothing. Its hobbies, walks, workouts, cooking - anything that is optional, that you choose to do and makes you feel goodâthat is relaxing. So often we add these things to TO-DO lists, as things to accomplish and get out the way so we can do more couch sitting and movie watching. But we have it all wrong. Weâre all hustling ourselves into anxiety and depression. And weâre not getting the full benefit of the things we actually like.
I know what youâre doing never feels like itâs enough, but taking the time away from work (which is what a lot of us doing more of being stuck at home) is more than just a boundary, itâs self-care at its finest. Itâs happiness waiting to be had.
Also - Iâm rewatching The O.C. in the background and I should have spotted/addressed my anxiety back in 2008 when I started. Rewatching episode 2 when Ryanâs mom gets drunk and falls down at Casino NightâŚmy insides are squirmingggg.